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Post by Deleted on Sept 14, 2013 20:15:34 GMT -6
I did this so often... I don't know why I feel it is not right. It's not a good way to love. Maybe when we are responsible for young children but it isn't between adults. No. Between partners, we have to let know what we want, each other. And the decision is taken in the best way for each other. It is kind to think at the other but if we take decisions only thinking at the best for the other, we are kind but we aren't thinking to the best interest for the couple. I'm thinking and expressing it out loud right now. What do you think about this? I would want so much feeling this partnership with my partner. Equal in kindness we could say and also equally for oneself and the other.  |
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Post by Deleted on Sept 15, 2013 19:08:46 GMT -6
I think we do have to let each other know or else nothing will ever get resolved and we stay
stuck and cant move forward...
And those who think if we love everyone the same or love everyone like God, it will bring peace and happiness to ourselves, they are just talking out of their ass..that only works for those who dont want to be with anyone and want to
be free to wanderor dont care to have a partner...it doesnt apply to all...some of us want to have a partner to love and share life with...but with that said it does not mean we arent to love one another as brothers and sisters..
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Post by Deleted on Sept 15, 2013 19:38:26 GMT -6
Oh and any relationship can be mended and can shine in love, so long as it comes full circle and is shown the proper light...and so long as those involved are willing and wanting to try...I am talking all relationships...parent/child, friendship, partner...but it also depends on the situation...relationships that are hateful, or bitter wont be mended...but relationships based on uncertanties or misunderstandings, or even mistakes can be healed...I think we know by intuit, and heart which ones we choose to mend and which ones we dont...some people we can just leave out of our lives...some we cannot...
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Post by Deleted on Sept 15, 2013 19:50:06 GMT -6
Just wanted to say I love you guys (heart) we have all been in each others lives for many years now...through good times and bad...we've all fallen, made fools of ourselves  had our lil tiffs...yet still here we stand side by side stilll walking together *HUG* |
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Post by shadowmaker on Sept 15, 2013 22:36:10 GMT -6
We are heartists <3
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Post by shadowmaker on Sept 15, 2013 22:45:18 GMT -6
I think we do have to let each other know or else nothing will ever get resolved and we stay stuck and cant move forward... And those who think if we love everyone the same or love everyone like God, it will bring peace and happiness to ourselves, they are just talking out of their ass..that only works for those who dont want to be with anyone and want to be free to wanderor dont care to have a partner...it doesnt apply to all...some of us want to have a partner to love and share life with...but with that said it does not mean we arent to love one another as brothers and sisters.. I'm impressed w your use of ass here! Shocked me! Love ya! Great post and completely understand love you guys! You are another addition to my dysfunctional family  |
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Post by Deleted on Sept 16, 2013 8:34:10 GMT -6
blackswan, where you mirroring contradictions in a long speech?  anyway, i believe we find often more love in bitterness and anger than in the calm of disinterest. You know, it's true. |
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Post by Deleted on Sept 16, 2013 9:57:26 GMT -6
I'm impressed w your use of ass here! Shocked me! Love ya! Great post and completely understand love you guys! You are another addition to my dysfunctional family aahhaa, well I just think that we love some people more than others, right??? don't you??? I know I do...so when I see someone say we are to love everyone/our neighbor the same way equally, I think that is full of stink..because I don't know anyone in my life who has ever loved everyone equally...we may have love for others, and we may have neighborly love, but we put forth more love towards certain people in our lives than we do our neighbors... would you agree??? |
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Post by shadowmaker on Sept 16, 2013 10:06:44 GMT -6
I absolutely agree! You can't love all your coworkers the same, some annoy the piss out of you, but you can still treat them decent
I have love for my family and I don't love them all the same, my mom gets more & so do my children. My brothers are like that casual friend you don't open up to too much. And that's fine by me.
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Post by Deleted on Sept 16, 2013 10:09:55 GMT -6
blackswan, where you mirroring contradictions in a long speech? anyway, i believe we find often more love in bitterness and anger than in the calm of disinterest. You know, it's true. no not bitter at all...just some thoughts on the whole love equality thing... we may treat our partners equal, we may accept and love those who are of different color, beliefs, orientation...but when it comes to LOVE of everyone as a WHOLE do we really love everyone equally the same??? No we don't...so I am just being honest with what I feel...are we supposed to??? perhaps, but we don't... can you honestly say martine, that you love everyone equally??? we may show kindness and affection towards our neighbor, but do we put forth the same love toward that neighbor that we put forth on our families??? |
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Post by Deleted on Sept 16, 2013 10:13:10 GMT -6
I absolutely agree! You can't love all your coworkers the same, some annoy the piss out of you, but you can still treat them decent I have love for my family and I don't love them all the same, my mom gets more & so do my children. My brothers are like that casual friend you don't open up to too much. And that's fine by me. yes... I also think this is a very interesting topic  |
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Post by shadowmaker on Sept 16, 2013 10:36:21 GMT -6
Indeed.
Those you are close to can drive you nuts at times or piss you off (not necessarily deliberately), but you forgive which is love. However, there are times when enough is enough and you get away from it because its just not helping matters in life.
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Post by Deleted on Sept 16, 2013 11:52:58 GMT -6
Yes...
This makes me think also of how love is sacrifice...I mean do we love ourselves equally the same way we love others??? No...not for me anyway...what I mean is, I take care of myself, but I do more for others than I do for myself...not that I don't love myself, but I show more love towards others than I do myself...No regrets though...that is just how I am and will always be...
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Post by Deleted on Sept 16, 2013 14:15:40 GMT -6
It's the mother speaking in you, isn't it?
I don't want to attribute my feeling to you also but I was wondering if it wasn't the little girl's missing expressing herself in this way in my case. It's the same feeling than the one I had as a little girl.
Would it be possible the amplified motherhood is in fact a misskied little girl?
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Post by Deleted on Sept 17, 2013 11:16:12 GMT -6
Well Yes It is the mother in me, but also maturity, and my genetic make-up...  I mean it feels right, and natural...but NO I can't say I was always the same as when I was a little girl...while my mom was around, she wasn't really there for me...so I took care of myself....maybe that is why I put others before me??? Is that what you are saying??? sorry, if I am not understanding you on this one *hug* |
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had our lil tiffs...yet still here we stand side by side stilll walking together *HUG*
I mean it feels right, and natural...but NO I can't say I was always the same as when I was a little girl...while my mom was around, she wasn't really there for me...so I took care of myself....maybe that is why I put others before me??? Is that what you are saying??? sorry, if I am not understanding you on this one *hug*