The beauty in that is that we are alone with our Shadow. No one can destroy yourself except you. No one is able to understand what you learn, what you let go, what you keep, unless the person asking.
I learnt to not take for myself the other's shadow. I'm not responsible to cure your problems and you're not of mine. I learnt how much I like someone being able to have strong ideas. Because I had difficulties to be strong with mine giving all the place to others. And it's really a good thing to learn about. I learnt to be fine with my values even when they are very different of others. I'm able to make actions to respect who I am even if it will hurt someone I love. I try to be respectful but I'm first with me.
Suppose, sitting inside and not being around the actual people in the public contributes to this "pc culture" happening so those people become shadows for the pc users. Funny tho since most of the posting are exaggerated expressions. So, it's not even a legitimate shadow
My mother used to say "Write your feelings" when I had difficulty with someone. It was supposed to complement what we were living, stronger by the heath of our youth. But it wasn't necessarily well received or having the same feedback from the other side. It's an art learning to well express what we feel. So, I appreciated a lot to find users of this practice online. Yet, soon, it was the same. What good in writing if we're not living it.
You're right, I believe all is exaggerated, amplified...
We may find to learn in every situation, so not all is bad in that but it's not the best way.
With time I had few occasions to practice that with people around me. Words, just written words are kind of dangerous in some occasion, if we aren't able to attenuate their weight in speaking together. It may be helpful to say difficult things occupying a tiny part of a relationship but when we just write our bad feelings, it gives them a too great importance.
But, when I succeeded, in two occasions in fact during my lifetime, it had tremendous positive impact in both of those relationships.
Post by shadowmaker on Apr 9, 2016 11:45:17 GMT -5
Expressing how you feel verbally or written is actually important in letting it go, a way of healing. Also writing or verbally expressing the good is also important with daily well being. Add music and feel great