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Post by SaintBilly on Apr 30, 2019 14:14:20 GMT -6
Just build a wall
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Post by Belteshazzar on May 8, 2019 11:40:22 GMT -6
and always have a safe word.
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Post by mskied on May 11, 2019 20:24:44 GMT -6
Actually what I need to figure out is how to express boundaries with others, so that they know what they can give me/what I can take. I used to know how to do this. I think it also ties in with the sharing less tho, so again, gonna work on that.  Any other suggestions are greatly welcomed though. If you rephrase this to say "I need to know how to represent myself so that people know what I am offering, to give them an idea of what I have, and I also need to know what I want to take from them" |
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Post by mskied on May 11, 2019 20:26:15 GMT -6
"Everybody's business is everybody's business" That's just too many people! Less is more  Everyone is interested in expressing themselves to the degree they are willing to expose themselves, and we are all interested in one another, sometimes a little too much, but hey, why wouldnt we be? |
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Post by mskied on May 11, 2019 20:39:54 GMT -6
Actually what I need to figure out is how to express boundaries with others, so that they know what they can give me/what I can take. I used to know how to do this. I think it also ties in with the sharing less tho, so again, gonna work on that. Any other suggestions are greatly welcomed though. Idk, I'm pretty tired of people. There's too many people around all the time and they are vampires. Sucking the energy out of my body. That boundary seems to be always crossed. Can't throw garlic at them or they will cry assault. Ive thought about vampires, and wondered how this worked spiritually. It does seem like their presence actually does have some king of siphoning effect. Ive considered that this is my own way of reacting emotionally to what I see, Ive thought that it has something to do with how they feel about what they see, maybe that their mind is sharper and connected to their spirit and it is invading my sensitive shell because I am open to receiving thoughts and spirit. There is certainly something going on, and the best way to protect yourself from this is to refine who you are. Decide what you are interested in, decide what you approve of, decide on the order you want to see so that you arent as vulnerable to their curiosity. You can do this with meditation, contemplation, designing your own rule of responding to situations. Its difficult to know how to react to each situation, and you have to start with a foundation. In Magick this is called declaring your Will, or naming your God- of course each God has a personality that represents their own primal idea of their Will, and so you could act like them, and learn from what they learned, or you could just grasp that kernel and imaging your own self based on what you see for yourself and what you want to see and get. The world is filled with ideas of how to do this, but I recommend reassessing your choices, setting yourself aside to ask yourself what it was that you initially wanted and why its not happening. This requires a retreat and a heavy evaluation of what you found the first time. When you master your Will and your rule, then you can go out and learn what you are want, and what you are willing to tolerate. Of course there is the other person, understanding what might be motivating them, recognizing that they may not be straight forward, asking yourself whether they intend you well or not. You can blindly believe in a Good spirit or be paranoid- it depends how you want to live, and what you want. Do you want contest and fear? Do you mind if the vampire drains you? Are you welcoming this? Is it because they have some advantage based on their design? Some people will be far more developed than you and will simply be sharper and more willed, and more aggressive. Now, you could pray to a God for protection, and I believe in some way this works, but it might be that the spirit of the God has provided you with a blind faith that wont necessarily satisfy the work of your want on the situation. Say for instance you vaguely believe in the loving nature of all people. This is a welcoming idea, and people will see this in you not only because of how you act, but by some other sense. This is the lure you set out and they are drawn to it. This can be done by organizing your appearance, or by some symbol. Represent what you want and what you want them to want. Still, this doesnt help so much in regards to protecting yourself. In the end, its about a power struggle and your willfulness to compromise or submit. |
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Post by mskied on May 11, 2019 20:41:44 GMT -6
Isn't that the odd part. Sharing less means not opening up, which is deemed as not a good thing to do. I think the problem is sharing/opening up to the wrong people. How do you figure out who the right ones aren't share with? People want to know things, stir up shit, then they pretty much ignore you. Wait, that's how online people are more often than not. 😂 |
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Post by mskied on May 11, 2019 20:42:08 GMT -6
Isn't that the odd part. Sharing less means not opening up, which is deemed as not a good thing to do. I think the problem is sharing/opening up to the wrong people. How do you figure out who the right ones aren't share with? People want to know things, stir up shit, then they pretty much ignore you. Wait, that's how online people are more often than not. 😂 Learn how to hold your cards, and when to play them. |
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Post by mskied on May 11, 2019 20:43:35 GMT -6
How do you really know when you know that you want to know what you know?
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Post by ashima on May 12, 2019 4:38:29 GMT -6
The gut. That "I can feel it within me" connection.
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Post by Belteshazzar on Jul 8, 2019 8:53:22 GMT -6
My 7 year old currently has no concept of boundaries.
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Post by ashima on Jul 13, 2019 8:23:04 GMT -6
You might want to start teaching your child such!
Of course it goes in one ear and out the other because....kids think they know everything 😆😆
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Post by mskied on Jul 13, 2019 10:54:18 GMT -6
so do a lot of adults  |
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Post by ashima on Jul 13, 2019 11:38:31 GMT -6
so do a lot of adults Including your self! Open books are fine regarding discussing ones life. I got no problem with that. 😂 Learned a lot. Fuck off is a great response when necessary. 😎😎 I got no problem saying that either, same with not engaging into a conversation with someone. Got important things to do outside of this online stuff, like getting ready for a new baby in the family! |
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Post by mskied on Jul 14, 2019 3:26:53 GMT -6
ummm that wasn't anything personal
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Post by ashima on Jul 14, 2019 10:20:58 GMT -6
ummm that wasn't anything personal Never said it was. But we are talking boundaries here. |
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