Codependency

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Emotional immature people will more than likely flip out from this information!

Of course I understand a bit how this has caused this relationship to happen for these 2.
I cant fix the person(s) and they clearly dont want to apply themselves to much needed therapy to help themselves.

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I definitely have to be cautious in the dating field! There is no way in hell Im going for that type of relationship!

*shudders*

[Sunia]

You can't have it if you aren't dependent yourself. It doesn't work and you see it very fast.

[Sunia]

If these two are living in your house, they must be important persons for you. It's not some illness, it's a way to be in life. Also it's not something like a perfect model, usually we can't find something weaker and other things stronger. I don't know your link with them and surely it's not easy to witness but I believe it's the kind of thing that you may play a significant role. Just by the exemple in your own relationships, maybe commenting on your own relationships? 

For few years, I lived a lot of changes in my life, some in work. I decided to play low profile, I needed it in the period. And beside, I'm a grandmother and I enjoy very much my little darling. So, I made a kind of decision choosing a different way than before according to my new profile.   I laugh because life is so funny.  We have to stay humble because our choices may be totally modified from a day to another. Out of the blue I received a job offer for Swiss. It was not official and absolutely without solidity but the point is it obliged me to have this reflection.  I said to my daughter it wasn't a choice because I desired to be near from my granddaughter. Children change so fast and I wouldn't lose this period of time. And we have a very beautiful relationship, I wouldn't lose it. And she said to me, why would you do that? You learnt to me to never put limits in my projects, you encouraged me to see larger and you wouldn't take this road?  And then she showed me by different elements the nonsense of my choice. And one of them was that I could teach something really important for her in her education doing so. She was totally right.

A state of mind is never finished. We're all the time moving, changing and our relatives, particularly, are very important as influence.

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They both are in a real need of therapy.
Excuses & refusing arent going to help.
Physical, mental, emotional and verbal abuse towards others is not a loving relationship.

[Sunia]

Feb 19, 2017 17:32:59 GMT -6 ashima said:

Physical, mental, emotional and verbal abuse towards others is not a loving relationship.

Certainly not.

But considering the recent events in this website between you and me,  that we certainly may considered as abuse, I wonder what's implying.

[Sunia]

I thought at this book "Transformation through intimacy" from Robert Augustus Masters that I loved so much.

The first stage: Me-centered "So we basically have two egos -two cults of one-in some sort of coalition, however uneasily governed or unstable it may be"

The second stage: We-centered codependent "The couple is not now so much two cults of one under the same roof as a cult of two against the rest of life. This is not always as isolated as it sounds, however, for the boundary or relational "membrane" around the couple may be somewhat permeable. Nevertheless there is a strongly guarded separation from whatever exists outside their coupledom. Within their self-contained world, they negotiate over what would seemingly best serve their relationship- they as individuals are important, but their relationship is much, much more important and is treated as such"

I can't help but see some similarities. Was it the intent for this website?

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Feb 20, 2017 6:32:32 GMT -6 Sunia said:

Feb 19, 2017 17:32:59 GMT -6 ashima said:

Physical, mental, emotional and verbal abuse towards others is not a loving relationship.

Certainly not.

But considering the recent events in this website between you and me,  that we certainly may considered as abuse, I wonder what's implying.

When I expressed myself about your posts? There was no ill intent or anger on my behalf.
We wont go back into a lengthy discussion regarding it. The humor in you is not shared. Which in turn can cause others to be humorless on here as well.
No offense.
With all the shit going on in life (home,work, world) humor helps ease the chaos.
Perhaps this is not the place for humor and laughter.
If so, then shadowland would be a place of darkness. Maybe it really is.

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Feb 20, 2017 6:52:49 GMT -6 Sunia said:

I thought at this book "Transformation through intimacy" from Robert Augustus Masters that I loved so much.

The first stage: Me-centered "So we basically have two egos -two cults of one-in some sort of coalition, however uneasily governed or unstable it may be"

The second stage: We-centered codependent "The couple is not now so much two cults of one under the same roof as a cult of two against the rest of life. This is not always as isolated as it sounds, however, for the boundary or relational "membrane" around the couple may be somewhat permeable. Nevertheless there is a strongly guarded separation from whatever exists outside their coupledom. Within their self-contained world, they negotiate over what would seemingly best serve their relationship- they as individuals are important, but their relationship is much, much more important and is treated as such"

I can't help but see some similarities. Was it the intent for this website?

The person who has that answer would be Belte. He disappeared. Is busy.